Just the thought of seeing someone else makes me feel sick and anxious. I feel this needs further exploration, because if you are prone to anxiety, you will find something to catastrophise about in any relationship you go into. I worry you are looking for resilience outside of yourself. The possibility of my husband becoming ill and incapacitated at a stage where I want to be active and travel also weighs heavily on my mind. What has made you so much in need of absolute certainty? While few would relish the thought of losing a partner, there are many examples of people leading successful and fulfilling lives after the death of one. Order by newest oldest recommendations.
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My boyfriend is 23 years older than me and I worry about being left alone when he dies
Just the thought of seeing someone else makes me feel sick and anxious. Topics Family Ask Annalisa Barbieri. You are exploring every possibility, every scenario and in so doing you are, as you say, paralysing yourself. We tend to overthink when we are anxious and this was one of the first things psychotherapist and couples counsellor Chris Mills picked up on. While I am not particularly worried about my children having an older father my siblings and I didthe thought of being a widow for plus years terrifies me.